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A Tosa resident since 1991, Christine walks the dog, raises kids, cooks but avoids housework, writes and reads, and works too much. A Quaker and The Aging Maven, she has been known to stand on both sides of the political and philosophic fence at the same time, which is very uncomfortable when you think about it. She writes about pretty much whatever stops in to visit her busy mind at the moment. One reader described her as "incredibly opinionated but not judgmental." That sounds like a good thing to strive for!

Princesses and hags: how we train ourselves to look at aging

By Christine McLaughlin
Tuesday, Dec 18 2007, 01:08 PM

Yesterday, Rush Limbaugh asked, “Does our looks-obsessed culture want to stare at an aging woman?” The woman in question was Hillary Clinton, of course.

It's like almost an addiction that some people have to what I call the perfection that Hollywood presents of successful, beautiful, fun-loving people. So the question is this: Will this country want to actually watch a woman get older before their eyes on a daily basis?”

He illustrated his point with an exceptionally unflattering photo of the Democratic party presidential candidate next to an exceptionally presidential photo of Mitt Romney and concluded that the Republican is much prettier and therefore more electable. In other words, a better presidential candidate.

The same day, 24-year-old Amanda Hinsperger asked: “What is it about anti-aging?. . .Women in particular carry the anti-aging burden, since most anti-aging ads are marketed to women. Are we afraid of aging? Does the natural course of life disturb us? Nobody likes to admit their body is failing. With all the stress this worrying brings on, and with the aging impacts of stress, maybe we'd be doing ourselves a favour by embracing age.”

Offensive as Limbaugh’s screed is, his observations about our culture’s fear, even hatred, of aging, are sound.

I don’t know how to change that, but Gene D. Cohen, MD, PhD, Director of the Center on Aging, Health & Humanities at The George Washington University, believes the negative attitudes about aging get their start in childhood. Think of the fairy tales we read to our impressionable toddlers: they’re full of wicked witches, stepmothers who are ugly inside and out, old women who live in shoes and abuse their too-large broods.

The Center has compiled a list of stories for children of all ages that show older adults as kind, active, humorous, wise, creative, brave—all the rest of the admirable qualities we aspire to at any age.

That is, if we aren't aspiring only to looking good.

Seems we need to start at the beginning. Give a child you know a good book—and some real-life experiences with women (and men) who are older, but not worse for it.

This entry also is posted at Aging Maven.

3:30 pm: A reader wanted me to make clear that the photos came first (the Drudge Report) and Limbaugh's comments came in response to them. He also objected to my use of the word "screed," claiming Limbaugh's point was about society and not Clinton. I think everything that man says is screed, and I'm sticking to it. That doesn't mean that the observation of American attitudes about aging (especially aging women) isn't accurate: it is. At the same time, it's a Hillary slam.

Comments

Thomas   

Interesting post.  

Maureen Dowd wrote something very similar in today's New York Times.  She opined about Hillary Clinton's campaign.  What struck me was the following:

"Back in the ’92 race, Clinton pollsters devised strategies to humanize her and make her seem more warm and maternal. Fifteen years later, her campaign is devising strategies to humanize her and make her seem more warm and maternal.

The public still has no idea of what part of her is stage-managed and focus-grouped, and what part is legit. It’s pretty pathetic, at this stage of her career, that she has to wage a major offensive, by helicopter and Web testimonials, to make herself appear warm-blooded."

You can read the entire piece at:

www.nytimes.com/.../19dowd.html

No matter how good or bad she looks, I'm just plain tired of the Clintons.  I wish they would go away and never be heard from again.

As for aging gracefully, I think males have an edge and become more distinguished with age.  

Take me for instance - I get better looking every year...

December 19, 2007 2:16 PM

Christine McLaughlin   

Tom,

Let's pretend for a moment that the female candidate were someone other than Clinton.

Would "warm and maternal" be qualities you'd look for in a president?

You wrote: "As for aging gracefully, I think males have an edge and become more distinguished with age.  

"Take me for instance - I get better looking every year..."

I know just what you mean. The same thing is happening to me!

December 19, 2007 7:59 PM

Thomas   

Christine...

A warm and maternal president?  Hardly important - to me anyway.

Truthfully, I have fond recollections of woman leaders like Golda Meier, Margaret Thatcher and Elizabeth Dole - determined and decisive women.

The ever-changing nuances that the Clinton campaign has to implement whenever her handlers suggest that the poll numbers aren't falling her way is an endless source of amusement to me.

I see similar Clintonian nuances appearing on the website of one of the three Tosa mayoral candidates.

Election years are great sport.  

2008 is going to be very entertaining.

Tom

December 19, 2007 10:22 PM

Ray Py   

Christine--Instead of reading about others growing old, encourage some of your readers to get out there and know us (seniors) better.  The Christmas season is  great time to do that.

Yesterday I had an opportunity to read various selections to the elderly veterans at the VA hospital here and used the Billie the Brownie tape from a radio broadcast of 1940.  One veteran who was heavily medicated and deep within himself, head down, wheel chaired, suddenly picked up his head and loudly uttered "Schusters" when the tape

mentioned the store name.  Another, similarly into herself, a woman named

Viola, at the back of my listening circle who seldom talked, was mouthing "The Night Before Christmas" when Larry Teich began reading that poem on the tape.  I don't know if that was a breakthrough for these patients or not because I don't see them that often.  But the VA recreation coordinator who was in the group was more

than mildly surprised at the reactions of both of those people

I also did one hell'uva Franklin Roosevelt in reading his Declaration of

War speech before Congress on Dec. 8. 1941  The healthier among the group

wanted to go to war again.

Ray Py

December 20, 2007 10:15 AM

Christine McLaughlin   

Ah, Ray,

Thanks for the reminder and a great story.

Next time you use your mad skills to channel FDR, though, could you work on provoking economic improvements, not war?

Christine

December 20, 2007 3:42 PM

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