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What Would You Do? The Ding Debate

By Jenny Steinman Heyden
Sunday, Apr 20 2008, 03:41 PM
So here's what happened. I was sitting in my 2006 red Subaru Forester, our precious new car basically, in the parking lot of Best Buy last weekend. I was sitting in the car, spacing out, half-heartedly checking my bank balance on the phone when BAM! A car door smashed into me. I looked out my window and saw a kid getting into his SUV on the passenger side, looking terrified, suddenly, that I'd seen it too. And then the car started backing out of the spot, and I LEAPT out of my car and started saying "NO NO NO this isn't happening!" Not my car. Please no! They stopped, the dad came around, felt the deep ding, and said "Yep, that's a ding allright. I'd like to keep my insurance out of this, but let's exchange numbers." So we did. Because that's now my husband's work car, I am never in it..except on weekends...and it has no carseats. So I haven't been to get an estimate. Sigh. I just called them today to give them an update, and to ask for an email address because that's how I communicate with the outside world these days..and they called back. And the wife was MEAN. She was so mean to me! "I can't believe you're going through with this, my van is covered with dings, someone actually broke in to my van for no reason, and really, I hope YOU never have kids because they do this all the time." I was shocked. Granted, I caught them, and if they'd gotten away I wouldn't be able to ask them to cover the damage done to my car. She then said "I have family in the car business, so when you get your little quote from the dealer, we're going to send you to one of our own people." We've only ever dealt with our dealer on this car, and were planning at some point to resell it or trade it in. The ding makes a significant difference. Am I wrong to ask this family to pay for the son's damage to my car?

Comments

Jaime   

Hon, there are folks like that all OVER this planet! I had pretty much the same experience at a wedding reception, where the passenger literally ROCKED our car when she threw the door of their truck open! When I got out and asked if they would exchange phone numbers, the husband got in my face about how it was an accident, at which point I mentioned that I was relieved his wife hadn't done it on PURPOSE! In the end, I decided that arguing w/morons just gives them the chance to drag you down to their level and walked away! In your case, you are certainly FULLY within your rights to expect to have your damage, no matter what size, repaired to your satisfaction! If witchy-wife doesn't care if HER car has dings and dents, that's HER right, but it is NOT her right to try to impose her opinion on others!

April 20, 2008 7:44 PM

David Tatarowicz   

I think you are entitled to have the ding fixed --- but at the same time, the "dinger" is entitled to have it fixed at the lowest cost possible -- as long as the quality of repair is the same.

In today's world, I have resigned myself to "dings" ---- parking lot spaces are too narrow -- and they are going to happen.  Unless it is a Major Ding, it should have little to no difference on a trade in situation, according to Kelly's Bluebook .... normal trade in assumes normal wear and tear.

A question I would have for you, is how you parked in the space you were in ?  Were you in the center of the space ... or off to one side ?  When you parked next to the SUV did you leave them enough room for them to open their doors and get in ..... or were they expected to try to squeeze in ?  

How big is this ding ........ did it go through the paint ..... can you post a picture ?

April 22, 2008 11:51 AM

Spleenhg   

Make them pay. If it were the other way around, and their car was new(ish) and as of yet undinged...and the mean mom was driving her husband's work car...you bet your bippy she'd holler and want you to pay.

April 22, 2008 2:55 PM

Eliza   

I figure dings and scratches are just a part of life and putting too much importance on having an unblemished car is a waste of time and energy.  It's just a car.  Let it go.  

April 23, 2008 8:22 AM

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