I received this letter from a good friend of mine who rents in Shorewood and parks in the Village Hall/Library parking lot.
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Dear Steve,
I am a single female, late 20’s and am now going into my third year of living in Shorewood. I rent, so I pay for a parking space behind the city hall.
Beginning this summer, I have been made to feel uncomfortable by an individual that is also in the parking lot, but does not live in Shorewood.
Every weekday, I walk to my car before work and there is a man parked and sitting in his car by himself or sometimes with a small child. It started out innocently enough, a ‘good morning’ or a smile as I walked past to get to my own car (where he parks, I almost always have to walk past him to get to my vehicle). Several weeks later it turned to a honk from the car horn, and if I didn’t acknowledge, even more honking to get my attention. I finally asked him why he was always parked in the lot, in which he replied “I am waiting for my girl…I live on the other side of town, so I don’t want to drive back and forth.”
Mid September I went on a week long vacation, and upon returning, this individual asked me ‘where I was’ and then also told me that ‘he missed me.’ To make matters even more uncomfortable, several times now he has gotten out of his car upon seeing me and approached me, offering to carry something to my car. When I advise him I am fully capable, he follows me to within several feet of my vehicle and then usually walks back to his car. He has asked me to approach his car and has also asked if he can have my phone number. All of which I have refused to do.
I usually leave for work around 8:00, and even if it is 8:30 or 8:45 he is still parked there. One day last week, I left for work at 7:30 (to avoid him) and was relieved to see his car was not in the parking lot, but then noticed it was parked down the block. He promptly started the car and drove up along side me asking me how I was doing etc. And now as of last week, I have now tried to move my car to the front my building early in the morning, so that I can avoid having to interact with this man on a daily basis.
I have been meaning to mention him to the police for the last several days, but to my luck this morning at 8:10 there was an office standing near my car talking with another village employee on a smoke break. Prior to getting into my car I told them what has been happening and that it is making me very uncomfortable to go to my car (I have no other choice on where to park) and that it has become more than just a ‘good morning.’
The officer looked at me and shrugged. He told me the man was ‘doing nothing illegal’ and that he had ‘every right’ to be in the parking lot.
I challenged what he said and asked if I should just be ignoring my feelings and concerns.
Again, all I got from the officer was a shrug.
I am so upset by this officer’s reaction. I am not asking for the man to be arrested or to be ticketed, I just wanted the police to be aware that this is occurring on a daily basis and that it is making one of their residents very uncomfortable. I do understand that it is a public lot, but I do not feel that my concern was taken seriously, especially when you are always told to ‘listen to your gut feeling.’ Had this individual continued to just wave and smile, I would not have said anything, but the fact that he is now getting out of his car, I look at this differently and do not know if his actions will progress or what to expect next.
I am open to suggestions on how to handle this if anyone has any.
If I had the option of parking elsewhere, I would, but in the mean time I suppose I will just have to continue to move my car and feel unsafe in my own back yard.
Help!
Upset and Nervous Renter
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