Homework Time...For Parents
As the first quarter of the school year winds down and, as SJV parents, as well as most other Brookfield school parents, are marking our calendars with PTS conference times, this is a good time to do some of our homework.
The parent-teacher conference is an opportunity to get a better perspective on your child's educational and social growth. With the average conference lasting a mere 15 minutes, parents should do some of their own "homework" to make the most of this time with your child's teacher. For a productive and positive meeting, keep in mind the following tips before, during and after your conference.
Before you go:
▪ Find out whether your child should or should not be at the conference. Every teacher and/or school will have a preference concerning this. ( At SJV, our children our required to be present at their conference.)
▪ Talk with your child several days before the conference. Ask your child what questions he or she would like you to ask the teacher. Ask your child what he or she thinks the teacher will bring up. Ask about your child's favorite and least favorite subjects. Without judgment, listen for clues about his or her concerns in these questions and comments.
▪ Review your child's report card. If the school provides a web-based grading system, log on to review homework and project scores.
▪ Make a list of questions you have. Also, list your child's special interests and hobbies. This personal information will help the teacher better understand your child and teach to those interests.
▪ Consider telling the teacher about any family changes or special situations that might affect your child's behavior, academic performance or energy level.
At the conference:
▪ Be on time. Not only does this show respect for the teacher, but this also makes the most of your allotted time.
▪ Ask your prepared questions. Ask the teacher to explain any educational term that is not familiar to you.
▪ Remain open to constructive criticism. Your child may act differently, whether this is better or worse, in the classroom setting.
▪ Listen carefully for what goals the teacher is setting for your child, and ask how these goals will be monitored and evaluated. (At St. John Vianney, students are present and they set goals with the teacher before their conference.)
▪ Agree on a plan of action that includes you, your child and the teacher. If needed, set a time for a follow-up discussion.
After the conference:
▪ Follow up on all suggestions your child's teacher makes; include your child in the discussion.
▪ Keep track of your child's progress. Regularly review classroom material, homework and tests. Frequently monitor the web-based report system and teacher website, if available at your school.
▪ Keep in touch with your child's teacher. It is not necessary to wait for a formal conference to seek out assistance from your child's teacher.
Parents, you are your child's first and best advocate. With some planning and forethought, the parent-teacher conference is an effective bridge building tool. Good luck to you and your student as this first semester comes to a close.
Former Principal Colleen Terry and school parent Lisa Greco contributed to this article.
